Welcome! Welcome! Welcome! Thank you all for coming here today. I am touched by your courage. Because today, right now, this room is filled with courage. Yes, courage. My online dictionary defines courage as the quality of mind or spirit that enables one to face fear with composure, confidence and resolution. You all know the topic has something to do with fear but you remain composed, confident and resolute. At least, on the outside you appear that way. It takes tremendous courage to be willing to admit that you have fear, define that fear and work to understand it. Then, to embrace new technique to handle fear and change it so you can finally be free of it. You all are demonstrating great courage in being here. It is important for you to let that in, honor yourself and feel that courage.

Let me begin by posing one question to all of you:

1. In the course of a day, what percentage of the time are you feeling negative emotions such as fear, doubt, worry or anxiety?

The first step in any process is to recognize the impact. What impact does fear have on your life? What I discovered is that fear is pervasive and has an enormous influence on our daily lives. During my research, I used my favorite search engine; google to see what I could find on the web. I started by just typing in the word fear and hitting search. In about an 1/8 of a second, I had 22 million hits. Also, I looked for information on phobias, which are defined as strong fears. I uncovered a list of over 500. Permit me to share just a few on the list. There are so many personal fears.

On a more global level, you all hear it every day. We are currently at war with terrorism. If terrorism doesn't scare you, you better check your pulse.
Does anyone know the Homeland Security's color alert level we are supposed to be observing? It's yellow, which is "Significant risk of terrorist attack". This is not as bad as orange which is "High Risk of Terrorist Attack" or red which is "We are all going to die". I am joking. Red is really "Severe Risk of Terrorist Attack". But not as good as blue "General Risk of Terrorist Attack" or green which is "Low Risk of Terrorist Attack". Even at green, we are threatened and our lives are in jeopardy. Then, there's the air pollution, water pollution; the risk of getting cancer from about 100 different foods that we eat daily. Someone told me the cancer list now includes some types of chocolate. Now, that is scary. The point is to recognize the impact personal and global fear has on your life.

Now, no one here is a failure because you have fears and doubts... just as you are not a failure for not being able to prevent terrorist from their activity...ugliness happens...the mettle and measure of success is not in preventing the ugliness but in what you do with it...how you handle it, how you use it..what you learn and how you change because of it.

Fear throws the many aspects of you, off balance. It affects you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It disrupts your chakra centers, auric field, and your overall energy. Fear makes you out of balance and out of sync. Has anyone ever been in a Las Vegas casino? Casinos are designed to throw you off-balance. Fear acts in the same way.
Your body responds chemically to fear with adrenalin, lactic acid, cortisol, tryptophane, none of which is valuable to the system if it is inappropriately expressed. Fear is affecting you physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

So it is important to balance and harmonize all these aspects of yourself to reduce the ongoing affects of fear. In the second half of the workshop, we will discover ways to do exactly that using crystals.

New maps are necessary to find a way to deal with the old issues and problems relating to fear. Power and security issues. Self-admonishment and self-punishment issues. Let me explain what I mean by those terms.

Remember to begin by forgiving yourself and resolving to give yourself more forgiveness, more love, more healing. Rather than admonishment, punishment, and discipline. Realize that you feel fear. Of course, people become afraid and that OK. You can handle fear, more, you can change it and use this energy to create amazing success.

You can ameliorate and eliminate so many negative ego fears, destructive fears that have no merit, no value and from which you can learn nothing at all. Once done, you can work with the constructive fears. No matter how threatening they may seem, they have the potential to be used positively without damaging yourself. They can compel and propel you into a richer, fuller reality.
You won't have to hold your breadth, settle for handling fear and the intermittent success that comes with it. You can engage your fear and make it work for you. No more running and handling, running and handling. You can make fear work for you, serve you. You may never become allies but your fear can be a powerful tool of change, a profound force of growth.

You know the words ... self-empowered, self-determination and freedom, processing, programming, visualizations, creating success. You have a myriad of technique. But when it comes to turning the words into action, the means into manifestation, the technique into end results...Too often you use too of what you know ... and you falter.

You say to yourself, "I know what to do but I just don't do it and I don't know why". Or, I am doing it but it is not working. So you look to your limitations, your blockages. Then to discipline, admonishment, and punishment. Enough of that junk. Later in the discussion, I will share an incredibly powerful and easy to use process for forgiving anyone including yourself.

Now, it is time to deal with fear. Fear has the capacity and the phenomena to be non-local. It is everywhere. What does this mean? Even though the things that you want in your life are not what you are afraid of, your fear can still stop you from succeeding or producing the results you desire. Those results that seem to come so easily for other people. Fear way over there can impact and influence what you are working to create over here and make it less than what it could be. Fear is non-local and can affect everything. Let's take the terrorist example. That fear, way over here because you are not actively thinking about it every moment, colors all your thoughts and feelings and choices and decisions.

That is why it is important to not just handle fear anymore but to change it. Because just as it is non-local, changing fears over there, it can produce successes over here. Fear is energy. You can learn to use this energy and harness it for growth and change.

Let's look at fear itself. What is it? My good friend and mentor, Lazaris, has defined it as the thought and feeling of separation, of being alone, of aloneness, of being lonely and alone. Also, the thought and feeling that you will always be alone, forever. Always alone and lonely.
But fear doesn't stop there ... no, that is not enough. It also threatens and puts you in jeopardy physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Every part of the limbic self is either threatened or in jeopardy.

But wait, I don't even have a spiritual self...mental and emotional fears are well, silly. Fear is just physical, it is about dying. Let's explore deeper.

If it is only a physical threat, then why fear the meeting with the angry boss, the morning deadline, the overdrawn bank account.

In fact, trying to handle fear psychologically or therapeutically isn't enough because doesn't it deal with the spiritual level. So, no matter how much therapy, it doesn't go away...the therapist scratches head and you do the same.

Fear is energy that can be changed but first it must be handled on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. If it is denied and rejected, shut down in the unconscious and subconscious, it comes at you, and at you, and at you, in ever bigger events in the physical world. So start by recognizing that fear is a threat and jeopardy to you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Also, it is the thought and feeling of alone, lonely and aloneness forever. I was watching TV, when a commercial touting Zoloft came on. Three blobs were on one side of the screen and one on the other. The voiceover said, "Do you have a fear of separation? Of being alone? Are you lonely? Then, you may be suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder and should try Zoloft. Zoloft is the #1 treatment for Social Anxiety Disorder. Call your doctor today to find out if you are right for a prescription. If you successfully employ the tools and technique discussed today, you will never have to make that call.

Real fear, dark or light, heavy or mild can be constructive. There are seven ways it shows itself.

1. Fear is an instinct ?it is an instinctive response that existed long before human beings ever occupied this planet. Certainly, animals feel fear. We have all probably seen or experienced it. Science has demonstrated that the plant kingdom feels fear through the use of electronic equipment. Plant gets scared of separation (cut a plant within an inch of its' life and it will grow back stronger). Humans ?yes, it is an expression of the limbic brain through fight, flight, eat or reproduce.
2. Great teacher - sometimes it is the first teacher. Survival and/or security. IE ?stove, cross the street
3. Companion of failure ?it is always there threatening, haunting, reminding, warning of potential failure. IE - I got this in sports, basketball and tennis
4. Universal wake-up call ?regardless of your station in life, you can understand this. The awakening news can be harsh and destructive but you wake up. Called into the bosses office, your spouse says, " we need too have a serious talk, the bank calls in your loan.
5. Companion of success ?looming at its' boundaries, reminding you of why, what...reminding you of success and what happens if you don't succeed
6. Great motivator ?if necessity is the mother of invention than surely fear is the father, when you get backed in the corner at the 11th hour, and there seems no other alternative...
7. Automatic response ?as it is instinctive, it can also be an automatic response, a trained response. When fear is denied in its' mental, emotional or spiritual form, it keeps coming at you, it keeps coming at you until you decide that it is the way of the world it is only human nature

How do you handle fear? Well, each of you has learned how to handle fear your favorite way, a way that you have been conditioned or taught, through the consensus methods. This is usually, from parents, peers or society. Sadly, when these techniques are used, fear is guaranteed to be destructive and damaging.

1. Denial - just to deny. I am not afraid. I don't get that I don't do fear. Oh, no, no. I don't feel fear. That is not fear. Personality clues that accompany denial are - martyr, self-pity, guilt-nobility, stagnation-righteous blame, suppression-repression
2. Discount ?oh, that's not important, it's no big deal, taking away the value, discounting and hoping that it will somehow go away. Personality clues - Pessimism, cynicism, depression, apathy ?lack of passion; addictions ?mental emotional, chemical. Arrogance ?lack of compassion. Seek the perfection in trying to handle fear perfectly, better than anybody else
3. Defending against fear ?making it so no one will dare to say, "you are afraid" because "them is fighting words" and you will assail them with anger, attack them with, "you are just trying to make me feel weak" Personality clues - self-ridicule with diatribe of self-hate " I am stupid and wrong, I am bad, worthless, I am an idiot, I shouldn't feel this.
4. Distraction ?creating the ‘straw man" I am really afraid of this, this is what is threatening me but I don't want to deal with it so I will be afraid of you. It is much easier than dealing with the real thing. You, I can see, you are sitting right there so I am going to be afraid of you. I am not really afraid of you but it is easier.
   IE ?lost my keys so I am looking under the light, did you lose them here? No, but is easier to see. It isn't what you are afraid of but you don't know how to deal with that so I will be afraid of you. I am so afraid I wore the wrong tie or the wrong color dress but not the huge meeting, will I get there on time, will I trip and fall, easy to play with those fears.
   This applies to relationships in a very specific way. You see the fear of loss increases the more you love in a relationship. You will do many things to offset this fear: Deny love, discount love, defend yourself by getting angry at those things you used to find so attractive about your mate. What was adorable becomes intolerable. The truth is that you are scared about losing your partner, more today than before and it is easier to get angry at them, distract yourself, create a straw man than to face that increased love. You would rather distract yourself admitting and working on the wrong fear. All the most elegant techniques applied inappropriately to the wrong fear won't work. Result: you are still afraid.


5. Avoidance - there it is, so, I am going the other way. Forgetting that fear is non-local ?mental, emotional, physical and spiritual and effects everything in one way or another. It is always with you. IE ?the bully
6. Rejection ?often, this is what anxiety attacks are all about. I am in the middle of living and I don't know how to deal with my fear so I will reject this fear. Then the thyroid shuts off, the thymus collapses; the adrenals come to save the day pumping adrenaline and cortisal into my body releasing triptophane, releasing certain endorphins creating a state of anxiety.
7. Refusal - of the fear, don't deny but just refuse it. Often leads to counter-phobic behavior such as living on the edge ?skydiving, risking life, and doing things to prove that you are not afraid of anything.

Now, many have learned alternative ways to deal with fear. People are told, "Don't run away from your fears", "face your fears", "go into them" "go through them in meditation. But, this is just a way to face them. With teeth gritted, grinning and bearing, trying to convince yourself. But this is so tiring because you have to keep facing your fear and the fear never goes away.

Now, is time for the forgiveness technique...recognize, acknowledge, forgive and allow yourself to receive healing.

So, How do you handle fear, as this is the first step in changing it?

1. Go into it your fear. Focus upon what is frightening you. The key is to have fun is to have fun with it. Play it through in meditation, faster, slower, all red, in costumes, different periods, up to the point you can't go any further, then do it again. Forward and backward. Serious and frightening, yes, but still an illusion. Tone and color, musical production, see the worst possible. This gets you familiar and in touch with the fear so you can say I am afraid and that is ok. I am not bad, I am not wrong, I am not a failure. I am afraid and I have fear and that fear is threatening me and I am not going to let anyone say it is not. After you can play it through once, owning it, without being embarrassed or ashamed, just admitting, yes, I am afraid.
2. What is really being threatened? What is really in jeopardy? Fears cluster so look at these seven clusters.
   1. Loss of physical needs, survival, security, sense of belonging; spiritual needs, communication with higher self, soul, spirit, god/goddess and you just can't feel the relationship;
   2. Loss of power ?take my power; loss of sense of self ?lose myself, won't know who I am;
   3. Loss of success ?lose the wonder, lose of access to resources, the stuff of my world;
   Loss of love, intimacy and caring. Withholding and withdrawal of affection and love;
   4. Threat of being exposed, your ugliness, your secrets, your shadows ?dark and light, afraid that all your lies will come to light;
   5. Judgment and punishment –that you will judge and punish yourself, and, that others will judge and punish you of what you have done or what you are
   6. Pain of impotence, not being able to stop the destruction, "my whole world is falling apart".


3. Consider the consequence of inaction or old action, of not dealing with this fear in a new. What is the danger of going back into the old behavior, the old pattern ?deny, discount, defend, distract, avoid, reject or refuse. What happens to you?
   1. Old action - Denial of self, giving yourself the message that you don't matter, that you don't count, you are not worth it and that you have no value;
   2. Old action - paralyzes choice and therefore change;
   3. Old action - it can perpetuate the past;
   4. Old action - support and augments the very limitations that keep the fear in place;
   5. Old action - perpetuates manipulation and fear itself;
   6. Old action - paralyze your power, strength and talent
   7. Old action ?can deny your love or spirituality.
   
   What is the consequence of using the old methods in dealing with this particular fear?


4. Next, make the commitment to learn and change ?specific threat and jeopardy specific to this fear, specific consequence of old action; what is it that I need to learn out of the jeopardy, of the threat. IE ?fear of public speaking. What do I need to change? Is there another way to this without perpetuating this particular behavior? Look at that a little deeper, can I see what is going on here. What action can I take?
5. The resonance step ?now that I looked at and know what I want to learn and am learning it, get into the resonance of the successful me. The future self that has already handled this fear, your higher self, successful self. Ask this important question. What is it going to feel like after the fear is gone, when the threat and jeopardy are gone, when the consequence doesn't happen? When I learn and take action? How am I going to feel?
6. Make a Plan B ?answer the logical part, the rational part of you. This is what I will do if everything goes askew, falls apart, comes undone, this is what I will do. First massive self-pity, be real angry at my spirituality, at myself, get drunk...cry and curl up in a ball and want to never come out again; 20 minutes for each, hate for 1 hour...decide my life is over for an 1 hour. Part of the ritual ?pick myself up, realize that I don't need to punish myself any more, ask for love, pick myself up and do this. If all fails, I screw up, fear consumes me, fear comes to pass, consequence occurs, I screw up, and I got this. I got a plan B
7. Resolve to act, to manifest, to create, and to go forward. I have learned and I am acting, I have the resonance and am feeling the power, I have a plan b, now, I step forward to create change

It is valuable to know that you can handle fear. To change it, first you must handle it. Oh, I think I will just skip this step. Can't. You must be willing to do this. Give yourself some experience of that, being able to handle fear with specific action. Those that have done this know what happens, you change. Yes, it feels uncomfortable, perhaps scary. All these steps, can't I just skip one? No. Once you have done them, you will be amazed at the change, thrilled with what happens.

Now, we will move beyond handling to changing so you can discover the incredible gift that is in the core of your fear.

1. Write a letter to yourself, dear Jeffrey, I am frightened, I am in abject terror, I am afraid this will happen, that will happen; don't worry about spelling, grammar. Fold it and put it away. Carefully, read it another day ?never skim it. Always read it with deep focus. Read it as you have received from a dear friend. Again, and again. Until you know that you are done with it. In the process of reading it you have dispelled it. Destroy it in three ways: write void, tear it up, burn it and crumble, flush or bury.
2. Give yourself permission to postpone the mission. Tried but it is just too painful right now. Make it available. You can postpone. Give yourself permission to abort for now. Just giving yourself that permission is enough. It must be genuine. Problems to put off until tomorrow. I need more healing then I will come back. Can be misused.
3. Mask of fear ?shaministic. Deal with the magic. Fears come in many masks and disguises. Make a mask, really or meditatively. Components ?mud, iron, concrete, and clay - key is to get lost in making it, let it form itself. Then look at it to discover why it looks the way it does..what is my fear is trying to tell me through the particular aspects of this mirror. Let it talk to me. Hold it up to my face, put it on, feel its' weight, smell it, taste it. Mentally look through its' eyes and see what you am really afraid of. Then, systematically, with great gusto, destroy the mask once you have looked through it. Symbolic and clear message to my subconscious and unconscious mind that I want this changed. You will be incredulous as to what happened to my fear. The threat and jeopardy is concluded.

Know that it is done.

Deep within the core of fear that is a secret that is a clue and a key as to who you are and what your destiny is; that is the gift that I have not opened. Some of the things that you might find:

1. Phenomenal imagination and vibrant visualization ?in order to feel fear, you must have an incredible imagination, yes. E.g. if this happens..I can feel my bones breaking, my head hitting the windshield.
2. Inventive creativity ?innovative creativity. Not bad or wrong. Been that way all along, fear came in and blocked it.
3. Capacity to trust beyond anything and be intimate beyond anything experienced. Because of experiencing the opposite. Be intimate and trusting with a talent, self or another; be trusting; phenomenal ability to know trust
4. Capacity of dreaming and dreamweaving; intuition ?insightful, psychic, innate sense of knowing; intuition that told of everything that could go wrong can now guide me.
5. Will and self-determination ?
6. Perseverance and self-preservation from "I survive" to "I am the visionary".

There are others, that once fear is changed, can be released; a key and a clue to your destiny. Yes, you can change fear into amazing success.

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The information on this page comes from the Lazaris audiotape presented by Concept: Synergy, Transforming Fear Into Amazing Success, Copyright NPN Publishing, Inc., 1994. Concept: Synergy, PO Box 691867, Orlando, Florida 32869. 1-800-678-2356. www.Lazaris.com